I RELEASED IT...

I remember when I was really young, my aunt was very upset because someone did her WRONG... and my Grandmother told her to RELEASE IT. At the time I didn't understand what that meant. Then one day many years later, I went to my Grandmother for counsel because someone did me WRONG... she said the same thing to me... RELEASE IT. At that point I understood what it meant intellectually, but it was really hard for me to RELEASE IT. Forgiveness of others is truly the best gift you can give to YOURSELF. Forgiveness is not about the other person, its about you not holding onto your anger,or pain,or the unforgivable WRONG. Holding on to these things hold you back. I know this in my heart now, not just in my head. I have gifted forgiveness to some folks and for some folks I have had to forgive them more than once. Forgiveness is never easy, but I learned a long time ago that its harder to carry the weight of anger than it is to RELEASE IT.

Yes, WonderWoman has been in total reflection mode.

Well just a moment ago I RELEASED IT. I was on the phone with a person that did me WRONG and I lost a lot of respect for her because she lacked of integrity and backbone. Lying about yourself is one thing, but lying about me is something totally different. I befriended her which doesn't come easy for Wonder Woman. My SistaFromAnothaMotha, my Momma, and a few others thought I was insane for befriending her, because of the circumstances of our relationship. But the truth is that I befriended her... due of the circumstances. Hell I wasn't seeking her friendship and for many years our paths hardly ever crossed. I was doing well not to have to speak to her too often. Life changes and due to some of our commonalities(that I wouldn't chose but they are what they are), our paths joined at one point. The friendship began and ended after about a year...

Long story short I was hurt by her actions, but I was even more angry at myself for trusting her in the first place. Integrity in a friendship is very important to me, so there's no going back on that one. But the reality is that I have been holding on to this for over a year. Today, I RELEASED IT... because holding on to the negative changed my mood when I would see her (I hadn't seen her much after this happened, but in the near future we will be seeing a lot of each other). I am a GROWN ASS WOMAN so dinging her in the mouth is not a good look. So in true GROWN ASS WOMAN fashion, I would exchange hellos and keep it moving, but then I would feel the anger and be back in that moment every time... that doesn't suit me. I am DONE with that moment in the past, but when I would see her my anger brought me back there. I have moved on, and I am truly too blessed to be stressed...

I have elevated to another level in my life's journey over the last year, and holding on to that anger, just doesn't fit with me given where I am and where I am heading.

Will we be FRIENDS... NO...
Will I be at PEACE with the past... YES...

I don't always get a chance to remember the moment that I RELEASE IT... I am glad I was able to blog about it... it will give me something to look back on in the future.

Much Luv and Gratitude,
WonderWoman

Milestone Moment....

In my last post I mentioned that my Born Day is an important time for me. Well it really is my New Year, and I typically treat it accordingly... with reflection of my year passed and gaining insight of my hopes and dreams for the new year to come...

I am still in the reflective phase... and I am not ready to blog in detail about it, but I am moved to share this with you...

I have climbed in my bed twice already tonight with the intention of going to sleep, but my mind can not be still. Today was a magical representation of my year... I got a little day job work done, and then the rest of the day was so synergistic (yes, I googled it and it is a word... lol).

I am so blessed to have my Dream Partners, and with them I truly am a better ME... I write that with tears in my eyes because if this past year is representative of the new possibilities for me... than I am in for a wonderful adventure. A few posts back I mentioned how being able to dream again has been a blessing... I have yet to find the eloquent means to put that statement into words that could truly represent how true this is for me.

To Dream Again is a Blessing...
if I was a poet, I would write the most amazing poem
if I was a singer, I would sing the most amazing song
if I was a composer, oh the melody would be a gem
if I was a painter, the piece would be my Mona Lisa
Can any of these mediums represent the truth of this statement...
TO DREAM AGAIN IS A BLESSING!
TO DREAM WITH YOU IS A GIFT!

Casblog- our meeting today really reminded me of why I know Synergy and Solutions is destined for great success. Our collective gifts and talents are the makings of wonderful possibilities. Thank you for dreaming with me!

Bishop- the church is real. What we come up with together... is truly The Secret. You know me well enough to appreciate this statement... towards the end of the night I was just speechless (an unfamiliar state for me). Thank you for dreaming with me!

Casblog and Bishop- as individuals we are so gifted and talented, and as a collective we are a mogul force destined toward monumental success. I have believed in The Secret before it become a commercial concept... and as I dream out loud with you... I know the Universe is responding. Let's remember our powers and do the damn thang!

Much luv and gratitude,
WonderWoman

It's what keeps me...

young at heart!

My two favorite holidays: Mother's Day and my Born Day- August 3rd (Yes, WonderWoman is a Lioness Warrior... LOL)!

In my 20s I didn't enjoy my favorite holidays as much as I had wanted to. Hell, I was so busy going through my 20s... for those in my world... you know my 20s was filled with a WHOLE LOTTA... lessons (retrospective view... damn I am so blessed to be done with those times).

For several of my Mother's Days and Born Days in my 20s I wanted to enjoy my favorite holidays, but life just seemed to consistently have some lesson planned for me that got in the way of me choosing to enjoy my favorite days. Once I accepted the gift and responsibility of my own joy and happiness... life has been sooooo different.

Well when I was turning 28, I was in a better place on my journey to being the GROWN ASS WOMAN I am today... and my Born Days are usually very defining moments for me. So I decided that going forward I would honor my milestones of growth in ways that made me happy.

Each year since, I have consciously chosen to spend my Born Days doing what I want to do. So I have spent the last few Born Days doing things that truly keep me young at heart.

Some things I enjoy doing that keeps me young at heart:
**Teddy Bears- Build a Bear is one of my favorite places in the world
**Watching Old School cartoons and educating young ones on the best of... old school cartoon toys- My little Pony, Care Bears, Smurfs, Strawberry Shortcake, Tom and Jerry, Bugs Bunny... to name a few that come to mind this early in the AM
**Amusement Parks- my neck still hurts sometimes from my car accident earlier this year... so no rollercoasters for me this year... sooooooo sad
**Playing Kick Ball- the fence was first base, the cement stool at the checker table was second base, and the corner of the wood frame was third base... out to Howard Ave was a homerun... Damn I loved my suburban/hood (safe given the times... yet soooo ghetto)... that park was like our own private back yard...
**Hanging out with friends and fam from back in the day- remembering the adventures... we really were good kids... just adventurous (I swear!)

So last year for my 30th Birthday... I kicked off my Girls Night Out with...My Build a Bear Birthday party... OMG that was so much fun! My kids were too embarrassed to come to my party... so I kicked off the evening with some of my friends that don't get embarrassed so easily... Casblog, my SistaFromAnotherMotha, Ms. HydePark, UMBPartnerInCrime and her partner. We had soooooo much fun! Then I went on a weekend trip... I went with high hopes... but unfortunately the highlight of the trip was watching Flavor of Love marathon and finally making it home. But no regrets... I just know my limitation with group weekend getaways... smile.

And this year..... drum roll....
I am having a Wonder Woman Born Day Cookout/ Get Together... I am sooooo excited. I found party favors and everything... My boys probably want to have me committed... LOL. We may even walk to the field not to far from my house for a old fashion game of Kick Ball... yippee!

So to all the GROWN ASS women and men... enjoy what keeps you young at heart... because we all need it.

Hugs and Luv,
WonderWoman