Reflections: He Is

Last year my Auntie sent me this Dr. Phil book, Love Smart. A relationship I was in was coming to the end of its season... Wonderful Brotha, Wrong Time kind thing. That relationship renewed my faith in Brothas, but taught me that even a GoodMan might not be the RightMan for ME. I was sharing my situation with my Auntie, and this prompted her to send me a book... not a gift card to go clothes shopping or some good chocolate to help me feel better... just a book...lol.

When I got the book, she called me and said, "I know you think I am crazy, but if you don't read anything else in the book you have to read two Chapters- "The Character of Him" and "The Character of You". So trusting her wisdom... I read those chapter and a few other, and even did the exercises. I didn't finish the book, but I have picked it up a time or two to skim through section... over the last year. Anyways, I was going through my books last week to get ready for a book donation and came across this book. I opened it up and saw a wish list that I created.

The Man for ME

• He will love and respect me for my strengths and weaknesses. Some of my weaknesses he will even find endearing. He will appreciate my quirks and extroverted nature.
• He is a Man that I can share all of myself with... my hopes, my dreams, and even my fears. He is confident and able to share his hopes, dreams and fears also.
• He is a kind and empathetic man in his special way.
  
• He will appreciate and respect my children, family, and friends.
• He is a Gentle Warrior! He's Protective, but not a rage-filled person.
• He has vision for his life and purpose. He is motivated. We are a powerful team!
• He is supportive and encouraging, especially during those times when I am down and need a supportive push... he is there and in tuned.

I wrote this list a year ago, and at the bottom I wrote the song title... He Is, by Heather Headley. This is probably the first "wish list" I wrote about the Man for ME that didn't include his physical attributes... just his soulful attributes. Was this a sign of maturity... or maybe it was the requirement for the activity in the book... I can't remember...lol. Either way, this list still stands true for me. These are the soul attributes of the Man for WonderWoman.

Some of my peers, ask the question are their any GoodAvailableBrothas left? I believe in my heart there are GoodBrothas... the available part is getting harder to find...lol. Well, reading my wish list a few days ago has left this song on my heart....

He Is
By Heather Headley


The day will come when WonderWoman connects with The Man for ME. Until then I will keep believing he is out there. Today I Choose... to feel optimistic!

Much luv,
WonderWoman