Life is the dancer, and you are the dance.

This morning on the radio were we talking about relationships, during our Book Club segment. We are reading The Audacity of Hope, By Barack Obama. We have been discussing the last chapter, Family, and this is my favorite part of the book. Everyone should add this book to their book collection.

The conversation moved into discussing the disproportionate ratio of marriageable women to men. One of the co-host... the only male involved in this part of the discussion said, "Women need to step their game up..." as it relates to the reality of the disproportion. He said that men are being more strategic as they find a partner. Of course his statement in the studio with three women... got intense. My reply was and is... WE BOTH NEED TO STEP OUR GAME UP! Men need to stop taking advantage of the fact that a "good" man is in high demand. And women need to stop operating from a deficit mindframe. Women, as we age, we are facing the "statistics" and starting to wonder if we will crap out in this game of finding the "right" life partner. We have to stop accepting less than what we deserve all in the attempt to not be alone. We also need to have the audacity to hope that with an open heart and by decluttering our lives of relationships that are not "right" in our lives that we will be the love we seek and have the love we deserve.

The last few months, I have been at a place where I realize that I am tired of the "for right now" relationships (incl. friends, family, and others), and I need to really open my heart and realign my energy so that I can connect with Mr. Wonderful Brotha for WonderWoman. As I stated in prior posts, I am detoxing my life these days, and staying hopeful. I have ended some relationships and redefined others, as I make room for peace and more love. I am blessed beyond words to have so many loving people in my life... I am realizing I need to get out of my own way and I need to be the love that I seek.

As I declutter and make room in my life for new possibilities in my life, I have been reconnecting and meeting some intriguing people. I am at a good place in my life, and though some days don't feel good... I know I am moving forward in the right direction. I just have to get out there:

• I have committed to go to more social events with my broader network of friends. I love facebook, because I have been able to reconnect with so many people from my past and I have started actually catching up with some folks beyond writing on their wall that we need to catch up. Each time I go out I realize how disconnected I have been, and I meet new people everytime. I have been kinda been just staying in my comfort circle and its time that I expand my circle.
• I also have been actually telling people I know that I am open to being introduced to friends, friends of friends, etc. if they know of someone that might be a good possibility. I can get thru a cup of coffee with just about anyone, and if nothing else it will give me more variety for my blogs (smile). I have been thinking about the online dating thang, but I just don't know about that...
• I am spending more time with my family (biological and soulconnected). This holiday season I am looking forward to spending time with my Daddy. I haven't seen or spoken to him as often as I think about him... and I just miss him. I am redifining my relationship with other family members so that I can appreciate our love for each other without excluding them from my day to day life (just talk to them and see them in dosages that make sense for me... smile).
• I am adjusting to being a mom of 16 and 12 year old boys. We are finding ways to spend time together that honors their stages in growing up. I am letting go more, and figuring out my coaching role for each of them.

I know I am moving in the right direction... I just have to let go of what was or "shoulda been", accept what is, and ask the Universe to guide toward what will be...

pg. 115 of A New Earth, by Eckhart Tolle
"How to be at peace now? By making peace with the present moment. The present moment is the field on which the game of life happens. It cannot happen anywhere else. Once you have made peace with the present moment, see what happens, what you can do or choose to do, or rather what life does through you. There are three words that convey the secret art of living, the secret of all success and happiness: One With Life. Being one with life is being one with Now. You then realize that you don't live your life, but life lives you. Life is the dancer, and you are the dance."

-WonderWoman